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RULES TO REMEMBER BEFORE YOU GET TIED UP (P117)
When you hear bondage you think of a person getting tied up and
spanked by some leather-masked sex deviant. But bondage does not
have to be about pain. In fact, there are different bondage levels
and you can take turns in being restrained to see what turns you
on. But before you get all tied up, here are a few important tips
to remember:
Plan ahead: Although spontaneity plays a big role in great erotic
games, planning ahead might just ensure success with your sexual
indulgence. In fact, the best sexperiments are the ones where
you plan ahead. You can imagine that all your effort of convincing
your partner to agree to a little bondage to spice up your sex
life could easily be wasted if you end up having to spend 20 minutes
looking for something to tie her up.
Think ahead how to use the restraints: A little bit of common
sense will do the trick here. What exactly is it that you would
like to try out? If your legs are tied together, how are you going
to spread the love? OK, now we’ve agreed to spread the person,
but you don’t have bed posts to tie their legs to. You can
always wrap ropes around the legs of the bed and spread-eagle
your bottom that way. And so the logic continues…
Choose your material carefully: Restraints can easily damage
the skin and may cause long-term damage to tendons and joints
if worn too long or incorrectly. Even soft material like silk
scarves, bandannas and nylons (which have a nasty habit of tightening
under tension) sometimes get so tight that they have to be cut
off. And handcuffs made of metal can lead to nerve and bone damage
– not the sexy outcome you were hoping for.
And remember you go shopping choose your restraint according to
your sex game plan as not one-need-fits-all.
Not too tight: Make sure that your partner’s wrists are
able to move around.
Don’t create tension: Apart from the sexual kind, the person’s
arms should feel comfortable and not pulled apart.
Don’t put weight on the cuffs: Sticking to the missionary
position with you on top is not exactly the brightest idea when
you’ve got your partner’s hands tied behind her back.
No interruptions: Try and remember that you’ve got a person
tied to the bed. You cannot all of a sudden attend to the front
door or take the dogs for a walk – what if the house catches
on fire?
No rush: Add to the erotic romance of the bondage session by
taking your time to restrain you partner. This way you can also
ensure that you do it right. There is no worse fun spoiler when
the restraint comes undone halfway through the sexual fantasy.
Don’t choke you partner: Remember that anything that puts
pressure on the front of the neck can lead to unconsciousness.
Also, be careful when you gag someone not to restrict breathing
(you might just confuse her panting for breath as sexual excitement).
It might also trigger nasty gag reflexes, which is not very comfortable
if the person who is tied up cannot get out of the restraint.
Always keep scissors handy just in case.
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